Cushioning – In the Dating World – By Penny B
In my last Blog I addressed the issue of Bread Crumbing as a fancy term for leading someone on. Another behavior that is often carried out by people on the dating scene these days is “Cushioning”.
Cushioning is another age old dating behavior like Bread Crumbing that has actually been around for years. Yet with modern dating behaviors such as online dating and dating apps, it makes the art of Cushioning so much easier.
So what exactly is Cushioning?
Cushioning is basically “keeping your options open” when dating someone. I’m sure you’ll agree it “has” been around for years, but as a Psychic I find that this is something that relates to many of our callers. Also, where there’s cushioning there is also breadcrumbing, just to add insult to injury!!
Let’s Set the Scene
You met someone six weeks ago and dating has been building steadily and comfortably over this period of time. In fact you are now quite excited about the stability and continuity of the newly formed relationship. When all of a sudden your new partner starts blowing hot and cold on you (bread crumbing!) and out of the blue you feel all concerned as to what is going on, Then you discover they haven’t actually deleted their dating apps off their phone like they promised you categorically that they had. All of a sudden and for no apparent reason you now don’t know where you stand with this person. This is classic cushioning.
Why is Cushioning easier these days?
The answer is basically because people don’t have to leave their homes to source other dating options. It’s there on their phones, on their tablets, on their desk tops, on their social media. Not like years ago when you met dates by going out on the social scene, so therefore, more effort had to be put into keeping their options open.
Why do people do it?
There’s a whole host of reasons why people choose to cushion their new partner and they range from:
- Not knowing whether this new relationship is going to work out, so they hedge their bets whilst they see how it goes;
- They feel trapped by closing off their options and committing to one person at that point;
- The above can stem from negative past relationship experiences;
Last but not least
- Because they can! Because it’s easier these days.
So does that mean your new relationship is doomed?
Well, not necessarily. It can always be saved and then reworked at with confrontation, honesty and agreement. However, it would make you question whether this person you’ve been getting to know really was on the same page as you, as trust is broken before it’s been fully built on. The key here is communication and dealing with the issue head on rather than letting it fester. I’m sure you’ll agree not a very a good start to building a solid relationship.
Does Cushioning go on in committed, long term relationships?
Yes of course it does, it’s called “cheating”.
If you can recognise your own situation within this blog post, then give one of our Psychics a call to get some insight into your situation. A Psychic Reading can assist you with exploring the intentions of someone you’ve been dating and what the likely outcome to being able to work things out in a positive way. May be, even it’s you doing the Cushioning and keeping your options open, speak to one of our Psychics today to see what’s coming in for you.
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The wonderful and caring Penny B offers sound and uplifting guidance in a reading with you. She has many years’ experience giving intuitive insight on all kinds of love readings. Speak with her directly for your positive guidance here; https://psychictoday.uk/reader/6732/penny-b